Inumerable people have given me advice on how to socialise. And yet, I 
still can't do it. (Much to my frustration!)

I'm beginning to wonder whether socialising is like salsa.

Let me explain what I was taught in my salsa lesson:

- Stand with your feet together.
- Take a step forward with your right foot.
- Stop.
- Bring your right foot back again.
- Stop.
- Take a step backwards with your left foot.
- Stop.
- Bring your left foot back again.
- Stop.

Does that sound hard? No, not really.

Does it *look* hard? Again, no.

*Is* it hard? Weirdly enough... yes. It's *very* hard. And utterly 
exhausting too. (But that's probably because I usually remain completely 
motionless for months on end. Normal people probably wouldn't have this 
problem.)

If I'd have read a book telling me how to salsa, I'd have thought "oh, 
that's easy", and that would be the end of it. Only when I tried to 
actually *do* this stuff did I begin to comprehend what's supposed to 
happen.

Maybe interacting with humans is like that? Maybe you can only 
understand it once you experience it for yourself. Maybe it's not 
possible to "explain" it with words. Perhaps you can only learn by 
*doing* this stuff for real, and having somebody *show* you rather than 
just *tell* you.

I guess that would explain my complete failure to learn this stuff... :-S

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